Personality
Development- Behavioural Tips
Be Good: It
is vital not just to pretend to be a helpful person; you genuinely have to do
that to be that person. For instance, you realized that someone is in need, you
can guide and say that I feel if you go to that person, he can be of help to
you. Or you can give small piece of advice. Satisfactions that you get after
helping someone is amazing, and believe me that will reflect on your face and
personality development.
Do you
really need to change: Come let’s understand when it’s time for you to change?
Suppose, you are talking with someone and that person, is nodding but not
interested in you or your topic! The person is looking at his watch while
speaking to you. The person, suddenly hop on to some other person and speak for
hours with that person. There is sudden silence in the room as soon, as you
enter. So, come out of your cocoon and see the world with unbiased eyes. Soon,
you will realize that you need to adapt to new environment.
Work on
Inner beauty: We all work on external appearance, but when you speak everything
get reflected, weather you are arrogant, dominating, self-centered or not
concerned. From your actions and way to behave and speak it all gets reflected.
So make sure that you work on your inner beauty or personality. As to have a
great look it takes you just couple of months, but to have a great personality
development you need to work for years to develop that aura and confidence
which will make you “a complete man”.
Are you in
self-doubt: Many a times people are genuine, they know how to carry themselves,
but they lack in their confidence levels they cannot express themselves
properly. They have fear in them; am I speaking right or no! What will people
think about me, are they making fun of me? Such questions of self-doubt
suddenly take you on the back foot. The fact is many times these people know a
lot more than the people who are speaking. It is just they have fear of
audience.
Work on your
confidence level: Well you need to develop a carefree attitude, be confident,
you need to think, people will speak negative about you as they are jealous of
you, or they don’t want you to become the center of attraction. Another thing
is that you can be with your friends and publish start speaking, develop the
habit of participation and speak in the discussion going on. Speak less but
speak relevant. So that you gain confidence and people around will understand
that you can also speak and can give your own advice.
Learn from
Mistakes: If you are learning any new thing, you are bound to make mistakes, be
prepared to say sorry and apologies genuinely. By saying sorry you are able to
make a respectful corner among your friends and colleagues. Learn from your
mistakes, forgive yourself and move on. Do not stop until you have learned from
your mistakes. This may take you years to learn and that is fine, at least you
are learning and trying your best. You are thousand times better than the
people never try and are timid to confront their introvert personality.
Evaluation
(Others feedback): Keep on evaluating yourself at regular intervals. Sometime
you will get feedback from your peers like, woo, I didn’t knew you negotiate so
well, or you can discuss matters so well. Hey how could you solve that problem
so easily? If such feedbacks are coming your way, this means that you are on
the right track. And improving gradually. But In case you are not getting
feedbacks, than its time to have another mechanism for you to have your
evaluation done.
Self –
Evaluation: For this start maintaining notes about the personality traits that
you need to work upon. Like public speaking, boosting confidence, pleasant
personality, helpful nature, socialize, dressing sense and likewise. You need
to find out what is it that you need to work on first. Jot them on paper with
date and search what is best way to learn that skill. Check for google, if
don’t have an alter ego, or mentor of yours. From google you will get tips what
you need to do first. Take one trait for improvement at a time, excel in it and
then move ahead.
Develop your
network and Socialize: Today is the age of networking, be social with people,
you should often go for outings with friends, you will have self-knowledge
about things and develop confidence to travel independently. Secondly, with
your network, you know how to speak and interact, when to take credit of
yourself and when to share and help. When and how to say no without hurting,
you will learn all these basic things when you are with people around.
Imitate: If
you know of someone who is fantastic in team building and have great
personality, observe that person by heart, try to be that person most of times
to learn from him, how he does such things, the more time you spend in
observing and learning more you understand about his positive and negative
points. You need to adopt only the best qualities and not the negative ones.
There is no harm in learning from your idol. At times we can have two or more
idols with whom we can stay and learn.
Adaptive:
You can only learn when you are adaptive, if you are rigid with your though
process than it is next to impossible to learn new things and personality
development.
Fun Loving:
Always working for targets and remaining a serious and boring kind of a person
is never able to develop fan club of his own, you need to be fun loving, add
some humour while serious discussion is going on, this will break the
monotonous routine in the room, and burst the stress balloon as well. But do it
in controlled and acceptable manner.
Time
Management: It is crucial to stick to your time this will help you in
prioritizing things also to take the decisions what to do when and how, to say
no and where to schedule what. With time management you will learn to know what
your priorities are, scheduling, this reflects better team management qualities
and you will be in a position to lead. But first manage self and then you can
manage your team well.
Courageous:
Take a stand for your decision is a good quality but you need to learn how to
express your thoughts and decisions. The win-win solution is the best approach
however, there are situations when you are bound to take stringent decisions,
the courage is to stick to those plans but the smartness is when you can handle
it smoothly when convincing all the stakeholders involved so that there is
minimum dismal in the environment.
Great host:
It does not matter that the party is hosted by you or not, important is to show
concern by asking people around like: you should have some snacks, that one is
good, have some water you are dancing from long. I am going to get some food,
are you coming along.
Complement
others: If you see someone is looking great it is always good to compliment
them, they will love you for that. It’s not only about dress this is valid for
their exceptional victory, speech or any other quality which you admire the
most.
Read: A
habit of reading will fetch wonders in your personality. The changes for which
you have been trying hard will come automatically within you. It will transform
you from within and will help you evoking your inner hidden strengths, from
which you yourself were unaware till date. Further reading helps you to do
introspection about yourself and when you have the habit of daily
introspection, chances are you will evolve as a better human and will lead to
personality development with time and regular practice.
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